娴情记语 III

Seems like the best thing I can do now is wait~

Avoidant attachment style??? (well, there are signs of that) --> give her time & space
Sister's divorce --> give her time & space
Any other family related matters --> give her time & space

In short, the optimal thing I can do at the moment is to give her time and space and wait until she is ready to consider dating again. The more you push her for an answer, the further she will move away. Something I have to keep reminding myself. If she doesn't reach out, that means she is not ready. In other words, there is nothing I can do on my end. While the brain can reason it out this way, the heart finds it hard to sit still and do nothing.

That's why I ended up breaking the No Contact and texting her. So far 2 texts have been sent with no reply (not totally unexpected). The intent is both to remind her of me and to let her know I am still open (probably more of the latter than the former since I don't think she has forgotten me yet).

Of course, now that it's approaching 4 months after breakup, this is becoming a dilemma.

"To text or not to text? That is the question."

Even Coach Lee doesn't have a clear answer. He did say that after the 4 month mark, your ex will start to get used to not having you around, so there is nothing to lose in reaching out. However, do you continue to text if she doesn't reply your first text? Coach Lee didn't give an answer to this.

For now, I will just text her every 6 weeks (or so), hopefully that is not too frequent and will give her that time and space which she wants. For now, there is nothing I can do until she reaches out. The ball is totally in her court. Me texting her is just giving her the signal that she doesn't need to worry about me rejecting, and she can feel safe in reaching out.

Still holding on because part of me still likes her a lot and the sudden breakup doesn't make any sense to me. I get the feeling that "this story hasn't ended", 未完待续。Guess there is only one way to find out: wait.

Or maybe I should just work on my composure/ maturity. Do what I should do, live life as I want without worrying about bumping into her.
If it happens, just wave and smile.

And continue to wait until... I cannot wait anymore.