娴情记语 V

The way I see it, for my effort in waiting for C (to come back) to bear fruit, there are 3 conditions / factors that need to be met:

1. It's a family tragedy that will blow over given time
2. She must want to start / desire dating again
3. She remembers & values the connection we shared in that 3 months

And these need to be fulfilled sequentially.

First, my assumption of a family tragedy, something which severely affected her to the extent that she is not ready to date now, needs to be correct. And this also needs to be something which will blow over and be resolved in time to come. If this base assumption is not even valid, then there is no point thinking further.

Next, once the thing blows over, she must have the inclination / willingness to start dating again and desire to get into a serious long term relationship. Again, without this, then she won't even be looking for potential partner nor reach out to me.

Finally, once she is ready to date, why choose me? That is where the third condition / factor comes in. Only if she sees the connection in that 3 months as deep and something she desires and values, then I will come into the picture.

In any case, this is the logical side of me speaking. The ball is in her court and for now, the only thing I can do is wait.